Here’s a review I received from someone bitter that I shut him down when he tried to promote his site in my comments section–apparently he thinks I’m a “violent” male! This is the kind of punitive, angry ‘stuff’ that comes out of the woodwork when we refuse to hand our power over to others who want to use it for their own ends. They’ll never admit that they were trying to rob you; instead they adopt an indignant, ‘you’re a bad person!’ spiel and try to punish and intimidate. Expect this kind of petulant, ‘do what I want now!’ too when you are close to an evolutionary leap in the way you use your energy; there are always some, particularly those who have ‘used’ your energy in the past, who will appear and speak of how selfish you are at not staying exactly as they would like–break it down and beneath the hurt and concern is a manipulator trying to take your energy (and by that I mean effort, attention, psyche, resources) and call it their own.
It’s all very ‘shadow of the eclipse, Pluto within orb of Juno, Chiron, Venus, Pallas, Saturn and Uranus’, the kind of atmosphere where we are hypersensitive, and those who play on others’ uncertainties will do their best to incite fear–and what is the biggest fear of a genuinely good person? That she or he is not really good, after all. When we carry misplaced doubt, when we look to what’s outside ourselves to reassure us we are what we hope we are, we are vulnerable to the abuses of those who would steal, who would take advantage, from swindles involving entire countries or peoples to the pettiest of Self-promotions (and concurrent put-downs of the host) at a small site like this one. They tell you what they want, hidden under language that’s typically slightly derogatory or that makes promises, that implies what a bad person you are if you don’t respond as they wish–and of course that’s what they’re banking on, that you will be so vulnerable in your own understanding of who you are that you will open your home or your wallet or your influence and let them in.
The review doesn’t accomplish what he hopes it will, which I can only think is meant to make me regretful and embarrassed and maybe sad–he’s assuming I’ll be ashamed, and shaming is a popular tool of abusers; what it tells me is that I need to look at my boundaries and my interactions, to watch that my Pisces Moon doesn’t just spill into every low-lying emotional landscape that beckons. Successfully recognizing and then thwarting such users can turn into a full-time job, if we don’t actively employ our life force in a direction of our own choosing; once the energy is employed the attempts drop off dramatically. The lesson for me is twofold: to see that I have a little more ‘oomph’ that needs direction, and to reinforce something it took me a long time to learn: that just because someone asks (or demands) something of me, doesn’t mean I must comply.
UPDATE: A reader with whom I’m not acquainted, legata, has generously included their view on Alexa. I appreciate this person taking the time to comment–very kind of you, legata–thank you! UPDATE #2: Thank you also to Facebook User–much appreciated! #3: Thank you–I recognized you, and wrote to you personally–great to feel supported!